Facts about enabling

Facts about enabling

Fact: Enabling is when you don’t allow another person to face the consequences of their actions

Fact: When you keep stepping in and cleaning up the consequences of the problem drinkers problem behavior, you enable the problem drinker to continue drinking comfortably without having to face any consequences

Fact: If you continue to enable and try to spare the problem drinker the consequences of their drinking, it may avert or reduce the very crisis that would prompt them to seek help

Fact: Enabling is not letting a person take responsibility for their behavior

Fact: Enabling is making excuses for another person or covering up for them

Fact: Alcoholism can be fed and made worse by loved ones enabling the alcoholic

Fact: Consequences are not allowed to happen because loved ones are too busy ‘helping’

There is great love in accepting the alcoholic as a person trapped in an overpowering illness. Enabling doesn’t really show that you care, it just shows that you are not thinking or acting rationally any more. So what can you do instead? You can learn how to stop enabling by going to Al-Anon meetings and open AA meetings, they are the people who can help you to see the whole situation more clearly.

Al-Anon and AA in Bermuda:

Al-Anon in Bermuda – Tel: 441 236 8606

Al-Anon in Bermuda – Website: www.ncbermudaafg.org

Al-Anon International – Tel: 888 425 2666

Al-Anon International – Website: www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html

AA in Bermuda – Tel: 441 297 0965

AA in Bermuda – Website: www.aa.bm

Al-Anon Meetings in Bermuda:

Sunday 7:00pm-8:00pm Caron Foundation, Smiths

Monday 7:00pm-8:00pm Caron Foundation, Smiths

Monday 8:00pm-9:30pm St. Peters Church Hall, St. Georges

Tuesday 12:30pm-1:45pm Mechanics Bldng, Church St, Penthouse Floor

Wednesday 5:30pm-6:30pm St. Paul’s Church, Paget

Friday 5:30pm-6:30pm St. Paul’s Church, Paget